My Views Were Cemented At An Early Age

I was born an old soul. Everyone has said so. I’m not sure if that is 100% true, but I do know that the classic television programming has always been my friend. And when I was 5, Nick At Nite programming was my BFF. I fell in love with the world’s created in My Three Sons, Dick Van Dyke Show, Gilligan’s Island, and Bewitched. But the show I loved more than all the others was The Donna Reed Show. I wanted my mom to be Donna Stone more than anything. I wanted to climb into that black and white household and become a part of it. As I got older, that desire never faded, but I no longer had the child hopes that people could be different than they were, but understood that I could be whoever I wanted to be. And so I began announcing my desire to be like Donna Stone when I grew up.

You’d think I’d announced my desire to grow up and be a prolific serial killer or something.

I remember 6th grade “Hey girls! What are you going to be when you grow up?” Day. All of us females were separated from they boys and given lectures about what careers are out there. Then we were asked which career we thought we wanted. I’ll never forget the look on my teacher’s face when I said I wanted to be a housewife. It was as if I had kicked her puppy and then lit it on fire. “You can’t do that!” She gasped, hand fluttering over her heart. When I asked why not she went on to tell me that “Thousands and thousands of women had fought hard so that young girls like you could have a career instead if being forced to stay at home.” I was nonplussed. I wanted what I wanted. And I didn’t think “housewife” was a dirty word. After all, Donna had made that abundantly clear in the season 2 episode “Just a Housewife”.

Stopped for an interview by a gimmicky showman at a grocery store, Donna makes a stand for women who often say they are just a housewife. Stay at home mothers are more than just stay at home people.

–plot synopsis from IMdB

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Donna Stone on the left.

Donna explains, in the most amazingly classy way possible, that housewives are more than one dimensional. They are nurses, psychologists, diplomats and philosophers. All of those careers that were offered to me that day. I know myself enough to know that I would be more happy staying at home. I don’t have the cutthroat attitude many other women have that would help me advance in a career.

That was the first time I was considered a traitor to my gender. And nowhere near my last.

After all those years I never changed my mind. Oh I had plenty of other women try to cajole me, I’ve had even more women try to bully me, all of whom trying to convince me of the error of my ways. Telling me I didn’t need to be subjugated by a man. I had many people assume my mother was a housewife and my father was forcing her to be that way. Neither of which was true. My mother was a single mother for the first 7 years of my life and worked as a medical assistant, and she kept that job after she was married, and eventually went back to school to become a nurse. Let’s just say she wasn’t a fan of my life choice either.

I learned more about the Traditionals, and now I use one point against anyone who has the audacity to call me a traitor to what they fought for…

They fought so I would have a choice. And I choose to be a housewife. I don’t care what other people choose, but I expect the same apathy from others.

I got married a few months ago. We are planning on having children soon. I might not be Donna, but I am still doing things my way.  I don’t need to be subjugated by misguided My Generation Femminists, nor will I allow myself to be.

Always live your truth. Even on the face of adversity. You’ll be happier that way.  And always remember, it is impossible to be a traitor to a gender.

An Open Letter To My Generation Femminists (with a side note to MRA’s) UPDATED!

I have not written in here for a long time and many things have happened, including the major event that was my wedding. Yes, I am now a housewife.

Recent events swirling around our society has prompted me to pull this entry out of the archives and update it for 2017. It seems me being less vocal about my predilections has caused people to forget what they are. And as our opinions are ever evolving, I figure now is the time to come forward.

So, here is the original post:

Hello there, my name is Calla and I have something very important and surprising to say to you:

I am a woman. However, I do not need you to be my voice.  I have one of my own, thank you, and I am choosing to use it now in hopes you understand why I must decline your offer of the unrestrained verbiage you seem keen on using “for women everywhere” without their permission.

I am not a Feminist.  At least, not in the way you My Generations have perverted the word. I agree with the Feminism of the Originals, the right to vote, a more fair system of divorce and child custody cases; I agree that women should be on square footing with men, but at the same time men should be on the same footing as women.  The Originals didn’t want to take over the world.  They wanted things to be more fair.  You My Generation Feminists tout that you want things to be more fair, but things are already fair.  Instead you want domination over men.  You want to tear down the Patriarchy, but instead of a partnership between the sexes in replacement, you want a Matriarchy.

I want no part of your Matriarchy.  I want no part of your viciousness.  I want no part in many of your followers wildly inappropriate behaviour.  Let me expound upon that:  I’m sure many people have heard about the militant splinter group of the Feminist movement, the ones who wander around topless and claim it is the fault of the Patriarchy that women can’t walk around with bare breasts.  Oh yes, and again, they do this in the name of women everywhere.  And we are back to my original statement.  There are people who are actually modest.  I know, shocking really.  I for one do not wish to see some strange woman’s breasts in my face anymore than I would like to see some strange man’s penis in my face.  It’s rude.  It’s crass.  Put your shirt on. Show respect for yourself and others.

But of course we have men who seem to need to hear the same thing so I pause now to send a word out to those crazy Men’s Rights Activists out there:  If you want your voice to be heard, perhaps you should pick a better word than “rape” to be your catchphrase.  You do your cause absolutely no favours by screaming at the top of your lungs that you are totally going to rape all those feminists, especially the ones mentioned in the previous paragraph.  Now, I will be fair and grant you that the cause of Feminism in certain areas has become completely skewed in a woman’s favour, and it’s still not enough for them, such as custody cases, female-male physical abuse, and female-male sexual assault.  Now see, that last one is kind of ironic right?  Because the reason men don’t get taken seriously in female perpetrated sexual assault is because you men are told it was your fault and you must of wanted it.  You lay claim to the fact that rape is rape, and I 100% agree.  In fact, it is one of my pet causes to spread awareness that men are not taken seriously, and that men can be raped and battered by women.  But it is getting increasingly hard to defend even that position when you publicly state that women deserve to be raped, should be raped, and then you go and post addresses of outspoken women you don’t agree with on websites and encourage men to rape them.  You see how absolutely asinine that sounds?

I am an Equalist.  I believe firmly in the complete, total, unequivocal, and natural equality between men and women.  I do not need some My Generation Feminist tell me that I am oppressed when I am not.  I don’t need some MRA to spit vitriol at me and the Feminist while I am trying to defend one of your positions.  Do everyone a favour, go onto a deserted island and fight it out among yourselves and leave the rest of us in peace.

Or at least, take my name out of the “Every woman” hat if you would be so kind.

Sincerely,

Calla

Reading this over again I have to agree with everything I wrote originally. I do have my own voice, and I am heartily sick of it being taken from me. It’s presumptive nature is offensive to me. Please stop. Or else I will begin to speak up at full volume, and I doubt you’ll like what I have to say.

This year heralded the “Woman’s March” all over the country. I did not attend. I did not consider attending. I cannot march in protest for things I do not believe in. Sure, there are some things I can get behind, like reproductive rights and funding for Planned Parenthood, but that was it. For the past week my Facebook feed has been choked with femminist propaganda. That’s fine, I scroll by what I don’t believe in, but I have rolled my eyes so much over the past few days I’m surprised they haven’t popped out of my head. The Patriarchy has caused men to think rape is ok? So who continuously makes it ok for a woman to commit rape? You can’t ignore horrible crimes because the perpetrator was female. You want to get enraged by victim shaming when the person is female, you should be downright ashamed of yourselves for doing it to a male victim. It shouldn’t take an Equalist to feel sympathy towards someone who has been victimized, we should feel sympathy because we are human.

Stop sending me invites to femminist gatherings. Stop recommending femminist propaganda pages for me to like. You might believe I’m not a femminist only because I haven’t been indoctrinated enough, but I am not a femminist because I don’t believe in your indoctrination ideals. I am an Equalist.  I’m proud to be an Equalist. I will always be an Equalist.

So seriously, take my name out of the “Every Woman” hat.

An Open Letter to My Generation Feminists, (with a side note for MRA’s)

Hello there, my name is Calla and I have something very important and surprising to say to you:

I am a woman. However, I do not need you to be my voice.  I have one of my own, thank you, and I am choosing to use it now in hopes you understand why I must decline your offer of the unrestrained verbiage you seem keen on using “for women everywhere” without their permission.

I am not a Feminist.  At least, not in the way you My Generations have perverted the word. I agree with the Feminism of the Originals, the right to vote, a more fair system of divorce and child custody cases; I agree that women should be on square footing with men, but at the same time men should be on the same footing as women.  The Originals didn’t want to take over the world.  They wanted things to be more fair.  You My Generation Feminists tout that you want things to be more fair, but things are already fair.  Instead you want domination over men.  You want to tear down the Patriarchy, but instead of a partnership between the sexes in replacement, you want a Matriarchy.

I want no part of your Matriarchy.  I want no part of your viciousness.  I want no part in many of your followers wildly inappropriate behaviour.  Let me expound upon that:  I’m sure many people have heard about the militant splinter group of the Feminist movement, the ones who wander around topless and claim it is the fault of the Patriarchy that women can’t walk around with bare breasts.  Oh yes, and again, they do this in the name of women everywhere.  And we are back to my original statement.  There are people who are actually modest.  I know, shocking really.  I for one do not wish to see some strange woman’s breasts in my face anymore than I would like to see some strange man’s penis in my face.  It’s rude.  It’s crass.  Put your shirt on. Show respect for yourself and others.

But of course we have men who seem to need to hear the same thing so I pause now to send a word out to those crazy Men’s Rights Activists out there:  If you want your voice to be heard, perhaps you should pick a better word than “rape” to be your catchphrase.  You do your cause absolutely no favours by screaming at the top of your lungs that you are totally going to rape all those feminists, especially the ones mentioned in the previous paragraph.  Now, I will be fair and grant you that the cause of Feminism in certain areas has become completely skewed in a woman’s favour, and it’s still not enough for them, such as custody cases, female-male physical abuse, and female-male sexual assault.  Now see, that last one is kind of ironic right?  Because the reason men don’t get taken seriously in female perpetrated sexual assault is because you men are told it was your fault and you must of wanted it.  You lay claim to the fact that rape is rape, and I 100% agree.  In fact, it is one of my pet causes to spread awareness that men are not taken seriously, and that men can be raped by women.  But it is getting increasingly hard to defend even that position when you publicly state that women deserve to be raped, should be raped, and then you go and post addresses of outspoken women you don’t agree with on websites and encourage men to rape them.  You see how absolutely asinine that sounds?

I am an Equalist.  I believe firmly in the complete, total, unequivocal, and natural equality between men and women.  I do not need some My Generation Feminist tell me that I am oppressed when I am not.  I don’t need some MRA to spit vitriol at me and the Feminist while I am trying to defend one of your positions.  Do everyone a favour, go onto a deserted island and fight it out among yourselves and leave the rest of us in peace.

Or at least, take my name out of the “Every woman” hat if you would be so kind.

Sincerely,

Calla

Beware the Invisible Dragon….

The Illusive Imaginary Dragon, Waiting For It's Unsuspecting Prey

The Illusive Imaginary Dragon, Waiting For It’s Unsuspecting Prey

My fiancee and I had a friend.  This friend had been pretty much sheltered their entire life, and up until a few months ago had never even had a relationship.  The more and more we heard our friend ask questions, freak out, second guess, beg for advice, the more I realized there are just somethings you can’t properly explain to people who have never experienced them.

I called those moments, “Invisible Dragon”.

It seems silly, I mean, who has ever seen a dragon, never mind an invisible on.  That’s the point, however.  Until you have experienced the Invisible Dragon, when others warn you of Its existence, they might say they believe you…but they really don’t.  Some universal Invisible Dragons are: hitting puberty (seriously, no one can properly warn you about that).  Within the hitting puberty heading we also move into, First Love, First Breakup, College, First Time You Move Out, First Time You Move Back In, First Real Job, First Time Getting Fired From Job, the list goes on and on–except none of these things you can really prepare for ahead of time.  They are the Invisible Dragon, only known after you have seen, fought, and defeated the beast.

There are also Invisible Dragons that are gender specific.

For girls we have, Getting Your Period For The First Time, First Time Buying a Bra, Losing Your Virginity (which is even more specialized because it can range somewhere between “ooh that stung a bit” to “reflexively inflict damage on partner” pain. Hell, there is even an Invisible Dragon that says sometimes it doesn’t hurt at all, but I think that’s just a rumour), Childbirth, and Menopause.  None of these things can be experienced by a man.  And yelling about these experiences in his face will only enact the Invisible Dragon stare.  He hears what you say, he believes that what you are saying is true, but since he will never experience it himself he’ll just have to take your word for it.

Same goes in the other direction too.  No woman will ever know a guy’s Invisible Dragons, such as Voice Cracking During Important Moments, First Erection, First Erection In Class When You Have To Present A Project, Losing Your Virginity (it is most definitely not the same for guys), Learning To Shave Your Face, Prostate Concerns, and Nobody Believing That Yes, Men Go Through A Form Of Menopause Too.  He can yell that in a woman’s face all he wants and she’ll have the same reaction as above.

This, I think is where the My Generation Feminists and the Men’s Rights Activists fall into a trap of their own making.  Yelling at the opposite gender that they “don’t know what it’s like to get a prostate exam!”, will only cause the retaliation “Oh yeah!  Well you don’t know what it’s like to go through childbirth!”  Where does it stop?  Where is the line where you just say, Invisible Dragon.  Instead of forcing men to understand what women go through, which they never will, try coming together on the Universal milestones we all go through.  There is always a common ground, but with these two groups, it seems as if they are trying to “out gender” each other.  Is it so hard to just accept that we are both equal and not try and impose dominance.

I guess perhaps that situation is my personal Invisible Dragon.  I will never understand what makes them so angry, so incapable of compromise, that they are doomed to destroy each other.

Then again, if they do destroy each other, then we won’t have to worry about their inanities now will we?

#GamerGate- Where the Worst Representations of Both Genders Fight Over Inanity.

GamerGate is probably one of the most stupid, asinine, and annoying things that has come out of the internet.  Since I just did a presentation about how integral visual aids are to illustrate your point, I will be utilizing them myself to really bring home how insane this “scandal” really is.

It’s like watching this

First of all, if you Google just #g it will be the first entry on the auto fill list. This whole phenomenon started in August when a disgruntled boyfriend of a game developer decided the most mature way of handling a break up would be to start a blog wherein he could basically be a terrible human being and malign his ex and, in his mind, revel her sluttery to the world.

Yes this does get all of my what.

Yes this does get all of my what.

In his manifesto he charges her with sleeping with a gaming journalist in return for a more favourable review for her game.  The boyfriend then went on to harp about unethical video game journalism.  This is confusing to me mostly because I’m not sure where the unethical part comes in, since the journalist this woman supposedly slept with never even reviewed her game. Sounds like she’s nothing more than a cheater not a succubus come to earth to destroy the ethics of game journalists.

After this blog thing came out and the boyfriend promoted it on any social media that would listen to him (4chan and redditt mostly).  Some feminists got all up in there in support of the female game developer-and that’s when this moved from being about a guy handling a breakup in the most dramatic way possible to an advanced case of a schoolyard fight.

I picture it like this.

I picture it like this.

Names were called back and forth.  Each side defended their right to be right with as much tenacity as a three year old who wants to wear their favorite shirt seventeen days in a row without washing it.  This whole fight was limited to a small community until one side had a “brilliant’ idea to escalate an already ridiculous situation into a dangerous one.

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There are no words for what comes next.

Apparently the guys over there at 4chan and redditt decided that they hated these women they had never met, or even heard of a few months ago so much, that they would inundate them with threats from rape to death.  They hacked into these women’s accounts and found their addresses and posted them all over social media, urged people (read men) to block these “feminist” women from playing games, or boycotting any games they might have developed as well as rape and kill them (they are all about the raping and killing these guys).  This went over about as well as you can imagine.

That's about right.

That’s about right.

This caused some stupid in-community issue into a national one.  Suddenly, people who don’t even play games are reading about it, commenting on it, and arguing about it.  In my own house there have been several arguments, with my fiancee (who is a gamer) pointing out that the woman who was at the heart of all this was really a terrible human being, and me (barely a gamer) pointing out that it doesn’t matter how bad she is as a person, it is illegal to threaten someone with rape and death.  The result of all of this stupidity is that both MRA’s and My Generation Feminists stepped into the fray and decided to out shout each other.

The male gamers have been the loudest and craziest voices out there.  They believe that women shouldn’t be allowed in gaming- period, full stop, do not pass go, do not collect $200.  Women can’t play games.  They are distracting with how little they know how to play games.  They don’t have the brainpower to play games.  ONLY MEN PLAY GAMES, GODDAMNIT!

This is how I picture them.

This is how I picture them.

It has become clear to me that these poor men are those 40 year old’s that have such bad social anxiety and poor social skills that they are still living in their parent’s basement and have never even talked to a woman in their lives.  I feel as if they are missing out on an opportunity here.  You have a hard time talking to girls in the real world?  Luckily there is a place you can go to talk to women in a setting that you have at least one major thing in common.  This might be the stepping stone you guys need to move forward in your life.

What an idea!

What an idea!

Unfortunately, as I said, the MRA’s and the MGF’s are all up in this controversy now.  You’ll find them blowing up social media, being interviewed on shows like Colbert Report, and just generally any open space they can utilize to scream obscenities at each other.  And of course, this is all anyone sees and thinks about when it comes to this whole situation.  The original core of a bad breakup is forgotten while it turns into a pissing contest (and I wouldn’t be surprised if it went from figurative to literal at some point) between the worst each gender has to offer.  We have women stating that women are constantly harassed if they try to play video games,  and there is no inclusion in the gaming community. Some of the men are saying that gaming has always been a male activity, one of the last vestiges of man-time they have, therefore women aren’t allowed.

Just. ugh.

Just. ugh.

Apparently both sides have not looked at any real data attached to this “scandal”.  If they did, they would know that women make up 48% of the gaming community.  Nor does it take into account that most of the guys that are gamers have no problem with women playing games with them, or playing games in general.  Right now all we are listening to when it comes to GamerGate are older men who have been playing since the days of Atari and are somehow finding that they are threatened by women coming in and taking their fun time away, and My Generation Feminists who are so itching to be mad at something that they will leap onto the bandwagon of inanity just so they feel as if they are accomplishing anything towards the Feminist cause, especially since there really isn’t anything out there for them to complain about.  And since they are who they are, instead of coming off like intelligent adults it looks like this…

That's how I see it anyway.

That’s how I see it anyway.

The more the Feminists moan and complain, the more the men will stand up and pretend to be badasses, and the cycle goes on and on and on.  I have gotten to the point where there is only one thing I can do.  And what I propose everyone do to get away from the absolute insanity of something that is really inconsequential in the grand scheme of things.

This.

This.

Why Women Are Sometimes More Vicious Than Men

Since starting this blog a few years ago, I found myself dropping off in writing it.  One of the reasons was that I was finding it increasingly hard find material to write about that hasn’t been written about a million times now.  Even in that though, I knew that I could bring my own spin on it if I really tried.  However, I’d have to say one of the biggest reasons for keeping a low profile would be the horrific, mean-spirited, sometimes violent responses to my posts.

I think the most surprising thing that almost all of these comments were written by women.  Most of them not even temperate enough to clearly give their reasoning’s for why I might be wrong and give a more constructive, well written reason as to why I should change my mind.  Instead, these women do nothing but spout vitriolic comments all over my pages designed to hurt, infuriate, scare, or belittle.

These are, of course, women who will be the first to come down upon a man for writing such filth about a woman.  As seen in this #GamerGate drama.  Now, I will never say that a woman deserves to be threatened with rape because a guy doesn’t appreciate what a woman is saying, however, these same women find it perfectly acceptable to say things like that to me.  Is it because I am female? Why it much more acceptable to say these things to someone of your own gender?  Regardless, it is extremely hypocritical.  Not only is it hypocritical, but by leaving these comments you alienate people, especially anyone who might have any leanings towards your cause (which, admittedly is not me).  It is no wonder to me that men have begun to fight back, right or wrong.  And I will absolutely agree that many of these men that are making these extremely disturbing threats are men who have some serious issues within their own life, and are hiding behind the curtain of anonymity, but girls, so are you .

I honestly think that at this point My Generation Feminists are just looking desperately to be angry at anything, and will in fact incite incidents to get that attention.  You wonder why  men don’t want you included in things like gaming, when it becomes more and more clear to me that by being abrasive, harsh, insulting, and angry all you are doing is making it that much harder for men to appreciate what you can bring to the table.  It also makes it harder and harder for women that you have already burned in such a horrid way to want to sympathize with you.

This might be something you want to keep in mind as time moves forward.  But, judging by what I have seen, I doubt it.

There Is No War on Women

Belle of the Library

That’s right. I said it. I’ll say it again. There is no war on women.

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Fine. Perhaps I need some qualifiers. There is no legal war on modern day, American women… says this modern day, American woman.

Up through recent history, I would have vehemently disagreed with the above statement. For most of time, physically, women were the weaker sex, by nature; while intellectually, women were the weaker sex by design. Both ideals were perpetuated on a global scale. Not until 1870, were married American women allowed to own property. In 1918, Great Britain granted the vote to women over 30. It was 1920 in the U.S., before women finally won any rights to vote. Britain then took a few leaps back, deciding acts of lesbianism shouldn’t have the same punishment as male homosexuality, because women were too naive to comprehend such behavior. In the U.S, it was not until 1960 that…

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The Birth Control Debate: Now it’s just getting ridiculous

I’ve been thinking about this entry for a while now.  It all started fermenting in my mind while I was on vacation in Gettysburg, PA for the 150th Civil War Anniversary.  While I was wandering around soaking in the atmosphere (and possibly grinning like a fool) I came across a unique looking family. The sons were wearing cloaks of various colours, which struck me as odd considering the fact that it was well over 100 degrees outside with 85% humidity. They even had the hoods up for most of the time I was observing them. To tell the truth I was hot just looking at them. But I was more dumbfuonded when one of the sons turned around and was wearing a shirt that said “The Birth Control Pill KILLS“. I’d like to point out that the child was probably no more than twelve at most and I consider it age inappropriate for him to be wearing such a shirt. But my main issue was with the slogan itself. I didn’t get it.

So I went back to the hotel and did some searches on the computer. Colour me shocked when I found out there is a whole movement that is claiming that the birth control pill actually kills women and babies.

Uh, what now?

Uh, what now?

It seems to be a movement made up of Pro Lifers that claim that the birth control pill causes all sorts of health issues and can kill both women and fetuses. They have a list of “experts” to defend this position as well as a page(+) of statistics and individual statements to prove their point. However, what is not mentioned is the comparative serious health risks to the number of women actually taking the Pill. If you look at any medication you will find similar results. Some of these women who have had negative side effects could also have had genetic or environmental underlining issues that could cause a serious interaction. Many of these women had issues with blood clots. However, when you go on the Pill any good doctor will tell you (as well as it being clearly stated every time you get your prescription filled as the pharmacy hands you literature with it) that one of the main risks is blood clots. So if you have a history of high blood pressure, diabetes or are a smoker you should stay away from hormonal therapies. This includes Hormone Replacement Therapy for women who are going through menopause (either early onset or otherwise). If you want to make a case of the pill being a woman killer, then you need to include the HRT, and warn women against all such forms treatment.

They also claim that the birth control pill kills fetuses. Now, I can see some of where they are coming from with that. There are rare cases where a woman has gotten pregnant and the pregnancy has been terminated naturally within the first week. However, the likelihood of that happening is pretty slim. The biological dominoes need to fall precisely into place before that can even happen, and the margin for error within that scope is extremely wide. Usually these instances occur if the woman has not been responsible in taking the pill as directed. Meaning she has skipped more than one pill during her monthly pack, started her pack later than usual, or did not take the pill with in the same hour window each day. If that is the case, then it is not the Pill’s fault, it is the fault of the woman for not being responsible for taking her medication as prescribed. You would say this of anyone who did not take their medication properly. For example, if you are a diabetic and you know you need to take insulin, and you just kept “forgetting” and wound up in the hospital, do you blame your hospitalization on the medication, or your own error?

Another thing I have encountered since becoming aware of this new movement is the absolute lack of education on the history of birth control itself. Many people are under the impression that the concept of birth control is a new, and societal breaking, concept that has turned people away from religion and God. However, the concept of birth control as been around for centuries, with varying success. The most effective was an herb that grew in the wild, but was so cultivated for it’s uses in birth control that it became extinct a few hundred years ago. Other methods include the “rhythm method” where you keep track of where you are in your menses cycle, as well as take stock of the mucus and cervix conditions before engaging in sexual activity so as to decrease the risk of pregnancy. Condoms were introduced in the 1640’s and were made of animal gut (usually from a sheep). However, they were considered “illegal” and had to be sold under different names, most commonly “French Letters”. Their legality or illegality made no difference, and the sales were brisk. For it not only helped with contraception, but also stemmed the flow of STD’s. A woman could also use a sponge dipped in strong vinegar or tansy oil and it would serve as an old fashioned diaphragm.

Of course, if all else failed there was abortion.

***NOTE::: I do not want to engage in an abortion debate. I am not saying it is right, wrong, or even somewhere in between. I am simply stating facts as it pertains to this entry. All of this is based upon historical fact and can be found in many books. Most of my information that I cite come from Stories the Soldiers Wouldn’t Tell: -Sex In The Civil War by Dr. Thomas P. Lowry. I will not accept derogatory or inciteful comments on this post. We should respect everyone.****

If a woman knew where to look, she could find a solution to her problem. This advertisement from the New York Sun in 1842 illustrates this fact:

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The first one is a advertisement for an abortive pill, generally made with snakeroot, which is a natural abortificant. If a woman was truly desperate she would go to some disreputable hole in the wall place and possibly die from the services rendered.

My point with all of this is, by villainizing the birth control pill, they are forgetting the good that it has done. We no longer have 7 or 8 child families, which causes less economic and environmental strain. When we teach teenagers properly, it can also cut down on teenage pregnancies. And before anyone stands up and say teenagers shouldn’t be having sex, I agree with you. However, it is short sighted and ignorant to say that they won’t ever do it. Teenagers are teenagers regardless of century. You can look all throughout history and find countless instances of two teenagers getting “caught in the act”. Look through birth records and find out just how many “premature” babies were born of newlywed parents. The Pill gave women, including married women and their husbands, a choice as to how many children they would have.

Just like with any medication, having an open, frank, and informed conversation with your doctor is the best way to avoid, or understand, the risks involved. So don’t take my word for it-

And don’t take theirs either.

Killing me softly “4” 45 mintues: A biased documentary about advertising

I have written a couple entries on how the advertising industry has moved into degrading men in their ads. I have wanted to follow up on it, write more about it, but I figured at this point I’d just be beating a dead horse. However, the other day my Sociology teacher made us watch a documentary called “Killing Us Softly: 4”. It was a lecture given to students at UMASS about the “dangers of advertising”. To be fair to the woman, she did admit that she was one of the Traditionals. Then she went on for a solid 45 minutes saying how advertisements are so bad against women, so degrading against women, subjugate women. Oh sure, men were throw in there at small intervals, just to give the illusion of less biased opinion, but it was laughable. I figure, instead of writing an entry about it, I’m going to give a sample of notes that I took while watching this video:

-(On the concept of sexuality in advertising) European ads are way more direct, Americans tend to be on the prudish side.
-(On how adverts towards women cause eating disorders) Men’s adverts are just as bad, and there is a rise in cases of male sufferers of eating disorders.
-(on how advertising cuts up women [no head, arms etc] but leaves the men intact) Abercrombie & Fitch, along with many others, are guilty of the same thing…except the woman is whole and clothed, while the man is chopped and naked.
-(On how Wonderbra focuses on women’s breasts) Yes, but Wonderbra sells bra’s, which are normally worn by a woman to hold in her breasts. Hence the focusing on that body part.
-(On mentioning how teenage girls see advertising and get low self esteem) What about teenage boys that are bombarded by men who are ripped, strong, silent types? They get low self esteem too.
-(on the sexualization of children) HOLY CRAP! Something I agree with! Yes, children are made into sex symbols at too young of an age, it is something that needs to be worked on, starting with the parents of these children, letting them know it’s not okay to dress like small prostitutes. Oh wow! Boys are going to be represented? NOPE. Okay, apparently baby BOYS are now partly responsible, because their parents jokingly put a “I’m a pimp” onsie on him. Well, at least we know where it starts.
-(On the thought that in advertising, women are either innocents or sluts) At least they have a choice. Guys only have one role to play-have ripped six pack abs and be stupid.
-(On how advertising makes women feel like they have to be thin) Yes, but some girls are naturally thin, and thanks to people like you screaming about how it’s so unnatural they feel like freaks.
-(On violence in advertising relating to real life) Apparently the majority of men are against violence against women…but they are too scared to stand up to the small number of men who are…being exposed to violent images in advertising is makes men be violent against women (apparently it has nothing to do with home life, alcohol and drug use etc)…and men aren’t raped or abused by women (even though the number of domestic abuse cases against a woman are steadily on the rise).

Yep. I want my 45 minutes back.